Say “I Love You” with Flowers and Gifts
Relationships used to be pretty easy back in the day – everybody knew we had to work in order to make things happen. We knew that you couldn’t just “fall in love from the first sight” with someone in the liquor store (or strip club or wherever else you first bumped into them) and that in order for a relationship to be worth something, both participants in this social experiment nature just loves to conduct had to make compromises and actually try to solve problems that would inevitably arise. Gifts and flowers were there just to spice up the romance that was already surrounding us. But then romantic comedies came along and ruined it all. Nowadays everybody has unrealistically high expectations. Relationships are supposed to just happen out of the blue. Romance has to be conjured up with the help of intricate plots and ideas if you don’t want to look like a banal loser. The gesture behind buying flowers no longer counts. Purchasing pretty plants today means nothing because everybody’s doing it.
Now you have to pretty much be a romantic genius if you want to be different from everyone else; to do something unique and to leave a pleasant memory. And the worst part is you’re actually competing with imaginary people – if you do anything that is less original than what the douchebags in the movies do, then it’s going to be “OK” but it’s not going to be “magical”. But, there is a bright side to all of this. OK, I lied, there is no bright side. Now you have to step up your game and put much more effort to achieve the same results a bouquet of flowers used to achieve before. But I’m here to help, either way. Although I will not give you specific ideas, I will tell you what to do in general, and it will work like charm every time. As the old saying goes, I will teach you how to fish.
The Power of Surprise!
There has to be a special “wow” element in everything you do. How you do it is just as important as what you do (if not even more). Whatever you do, it has to be a surprise – something she didn’t anticipate. I find that the best way to surprise her is to give her something without an occasion – make a present just because she’s with you on a Wednesday evening. Everyone makes presents when there is an occasion – if they don’t forget, that is, but few do it just because… And, since I’m a nice person, I will show you how to catch your first fish. The rest is up to you, sport.
Buy her a gift (listening to her and knowing what she wants could help a lot, if you can afford it). Take her out somewhere, just the two of you. Maybe go to her favorite place, but make sure it’s nothing fancy. She must suspect nothing. In the middle of the meal excuse yourself and go to the bathroom. When you’re out of sight, find your waiter, give him the gift and ask him to bring it to the table the next time you call him. In most cases, he would be glad to do it (trust me – this is the first interesting thing someone’s asked of him to do today or maybe even this week, plus he expects your gratitude in the tip, which you will express if you’re not a douchebag). Then casually return to the table and wait for desert (or something). Wait for the look on her face when out of the blue she receives a gift she never expected. A pro tip: stay away from the presents of the circular variety. It might leave a wrong impression.
An important thing to remember is NOT to do this frequently. The more you do it, the more it loses its “juice”. Use it wisely and don’t abuse this power I’ve given you. As for gifts when there is an occasion, go for the handmade and unique (don’t do it yourself – hire professionals to do something special). Other than that, there isn’t much I can tell you, except for – if you think you’re special for giving her a necklace, boy, are you in trouble… And speaking of trouble, put a little thought into it next time instead of looking for ready solutions online!